Prior
Planning
Prevents
Possible
Problems
Yeah right.
Well, I should have known better. It is Monday after all. Damn you Monday. You always sneak up on me and give me those sucker punches.
Last night I posted how I had myself all set up for the week ahead. HA!
I said it - crap was going to happen. There's no need to get into minutia, but the hardest part for me was my son.
He had a terrible no good very bad day. Not a thing went right for my little man today. It started with a bloody nose before 5:00 AM and it went downhill for him. By the time I got him after school he was SHOT. All I did was look at him the wrong way and BOOM he lost it. Which basically means I was a his verbal little punching bag. There obviously were consequences for his behavior, but that's not what this is about; it's about what he did next.In my son's school last year they introduced the Bucket Fill-osophy. Here's a quick explanation:
The Theory of the Dipper and the
Bucket
Each one of us has an invisible bucket.
It is constantly emptied or filled, depending on what others say or do to us.
When our bucket is full, we feel great. When it is empty, we feel awful.
Each of us has an invisible dipper.
When we use that dipper to fill other people's buckets ~
by saying or doing things to increase their positive emotions ~ we also fill our own bucket.
But when we use that dipper to dip from others' buckets ~ by doing
or saying things that decrease their positive emotions ~ we diminish ourselves.
Like the cup that runneth over, a full bucket gives us a positive outlook and renewed energy. Every drop in that bucket makes is stronger and more optimistic.
But an empty bucket poisons our outlook, saps our energy, and undermines our will. That's why every time someone dips from our
bucket, it hurts us.
So we face a choice every moment of every day: We can fill one another's buckets, or we can dip from them.
It's an important choice ~ one that profoundly influences our relationships, productivity, health, and happiness.
Back to our story
Before I put Kyle to bed tonight he asked me if I know what buckets were. I immediately said,
"Yes, and you dipped pretty deep into mine tonight."
He said, "Yea Mommy. I know. But I'm going to try and fill it up a little before I go to bed. I'm sorry."
Gotta Love Kids!
Take that Monday!
Each one of us has an invisible bucket.
It is constantly emptied or filled, depending on what others say or do to us.
When our bucket is full, we feel great. When it is empty, we feel awful.
Each of us has an invisible dipper.
When we use that dipper to fill other people's buckets ~
by saying or doing things to increase their positive emotions ~ we also fill our own bucket.
But when we use that dipper to dip from others' buckets ~ by doing
or saying things that decrease their positive emotions ~ we diminish ourselves.
Like the cup that runneth over, a full bucket gives us a positive outlook and renewed energy. Every drop in that bucket makes is stronger and more optimistic.
But an empty bucket poisons our outlook, saps our energy, and undermines our will. That's why every time someone dips from our
bucket, it hurts us.
So we face a choice every moment of every day: We can fill one another's buckets, or we can dip from them.
It's an important choice ~ one that profoundly influences our relationships, productivity, health, and happiness.
Back to our story
Before I put Kyle to bed tonight he asked me if I know what buckets were. I immediately said,
"Yes, and you dipped pretty deep into mine tonight."
He said, "Yea Mommy. I know. But I'm going to try and fill it up a little before I go to bed. I'm sorry."
Gotta Love Kids!
Take that Monday!
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